ResolutionI’m not one to make New Year’s resolutions.  They seem too arbitrary.  Too easy to make.  Too easy to forget.

In my life, I’ve found that everyday is the perfect day to make a resolution.  Everyday is a perfect opportunity to commit to something that will transform my life into whatever I am determined to make it.

The key word for me is commitment.  Doing what I say I will do when I say I will do it in the way it was meant to be done.  This is no small feat.  Days are busy and intense, and what I’m committed to often gets buried under layers of things that seem more urgent but are in reality less important.

Fear, too, can be commitment’s nemesis.  Like so many people, I am afraid of change.  I am sometimes afraid to commit to the very things I ultimately want.  But it would be tragic to let fear of abandoning what’s not working but is comfortable determine what I am willing to commit to.  So commitment takes courage.  The best definition of courage goes like this:  courage isn’t the absence of fear but a willingness to act in the face of fear.

So what am I committed to?

Three things immediately come to mind.  Writing, health, and faith.

I call myself a writer.  And writers write.  It’s not hard to realize that I need to write.  I have two novels I’m working on.  One is a first draft and one is a second draft.  I am committed to finishing them and getting them published.  It’s great that I say I’m committed, but that is not enough.  I need to take actions towards my commitment and be accountable for them.  So over a week ago I set up a structure in my life to help me meet my commitment.  I got in touch with one of the members of my weekly writing critique group and told her my commitment.  I told her that I wanted to be working on my writing for 2 hours every weekday.  And I asked her to be my accountability buddy in this commitment.  She agreed and requested that I be the same for her.  So last week, everyday at 8am we’ve checked in via Skype to talk about what we’ll be writing over the next two hours.  The we’ve written until 10am at which point we’ve briefly checked in again to discuss how it went.

It has been a great experience so far.  And it’s given me insight into a pattern of steps I need to take to meet my commitments.  They are:

  • Say it.
  • Do it.
  • Account for it.

“Say it” is just like it sounds.  It’s declaring what I’m committed to and what actions I’m going to take to meet that commitment in a formal fashion so that it is clear what I’m committing to and what I’m going to do about it.

“Do it” means following through on those actions I committed to.

And “Account For It” means to in some way set up a structure of accountability for what I am committed to.  That could be another person I ask to hold me to account or it could be something entirely different such as a reward structure for when I meet certain commitments.

So far I have a great structure in place for my writing.  I’ve started to setup something similar for my health, but I’ve come up short in the “do it” and “account for it” departments.  That doesn’t mean I have to beat myself up for not following through.  It’s merely an opportunity to re-commit to my structure.  And finally I plan to figure out some sort of structure to support my commitment to my faith.

So this year isn’t a year for New Year’s resolutions so quickly out of sight, out of mind.  It’s a year of commitments.  Commitments I recommit to everyday, every hour, every minute.

Happy New  Year!
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About Lauren

Lauren believes that life can be full of joy and gratitude especially in the face of life's toughest trials. A highly creative person, the 32-year-old has a background in web & graphic design, musical theater, competitive improvisation, film production, and Alternate Reality Games. She is passionate about creative writing and is working on the final drafts of two science fiction novels. As a graduate of Landmark Education she has developed herself personally and professionally allowing her to powerfully create the life that she wants. After being diagnosed with multiple autoimmune diseases including Myasthenia Gravis and Sjogren's Syndrome, she adapted to new limitations while also discovering new interests and creative outlets that have given her life renewed purpose. Although she was raised Jewish, she converted to the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints. Her faith helped her to endure and even flourish.